I read a statistic the other day that said if one has a roof over his head and a meal on his table he is richer than 93 percent of the world’s population. If a person wears a pair of shoes he is richer than 75 percent of the people in the world. (ref.) Statistics like these blow me away with a realization of just how blessed I am. If you are reading this post today, chances are you are wearing a pair of shoes and have a roof over your head. We are so blessed. And yet often so discontent. Why is that? Why are we not satisfied with where we are and what we have?
Contentment comes in several forms. First we can discuss being content with the material things we possess in this world. Our house, our clothes, the car we drive, the toys our kids have, the vacations we take. One of the wisest and richest men we meet in the Bible, Solomon, knew about contentment.
Whoever loves money never has enough;
whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income.
This too is meaningless. -Ecclesiastes 5:10
Why do we feel the need to keep up with Ms. Jones? I don’t think I like her very much anyway! The point here is this, there will always be another do-dad or trinket out there that is sure to make our life better. There is always more money to make and nicer “things” to acquire. But what are we saying to our God, and to our children, when we chase after these things? Whether it is intentional or not, our actions say, “You are just not enough for me.” Jesus Himself tells us,
For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well – Matthew 6:32-22
Learning to be content with the material things we have is a requirement for living the Christian life. It just is. God is very clear on this point, that we must seek Him first. Throughout scripture we can find story after story that shows how God cares for His people when they put their trust in Him to provide for their needs. The desire to have more on this earth is a human desire, it is not of God. We must understand this desire and call it out for what it is before it poisons not only our life, but that of our children.
A second type of contentment we can experience is a contentment with where we are spiritually in life. Where are we on the path God has called us to? What type of “Christian” are we? Sandy is a much better mom than I am. . . Barbra is a much better church member than me . . . Jane prays for hours every day, and I only squeeze in 3 minutes before falling asleep at night. Do you see it? Comparison sneaks in here and all of a sudden we experience frustration and disappointment that we are not where we think we should be in our walk with God. This is an area I think a lot of us struggle with and it has taken me a while to really get nestled in the middle of this life and feel good about it.
Here is the thing. You and I, we are in different places spiritually in our lives. We are gifted in different areas. We are learning different things. We are on different paths. I have met women who accepted Christ five days ago and they appear to me to be spiritually wise beyond their years. And yet I have met women who have been Christians for 50 years, who are still drinking from the spiritual milk bottle as a new believer would. We are all different, called differently, made differently, and we all have a different identity and relationship with our King. Isn’t that amazing? Not only did He create us in His image, yet unique, but He also desires to have a specific and unique relationship with each one of us! My walk with Him is not the same as yours. And that is a beautiful thing my friend! It isn’t supposed to look the same!
There is an important difference here I want you to note between contentment in where you are with God and just being lazy and stale in your relationship with Him. Don’t confuse contentment with an easy way out! Being content in your relationship with Him means you are constantly pursuing Him, relying on Him, learning about Him, and living each day in the presence of who He is and who you are not. The apostle Paul tells us,
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength – Philippians 4:12-13
And the writer of Hebrews tells us,
Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’ So we may boldly say: ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me? – Hebrews 13:5-6
This is the picture of contentment we should be striving for. It’s about trust. It’s about priorities. It’s laying aside comparison and what others may think. It’s about God. Do you love Him enough to put your trust in Him? Even if it means you could lose everything? It’s that big my friends. It’s that hard and that easy all at the same time. It’s what we are called to. Greater is He who is living in me than he who is in the world.
Contentment. It’s a decision. A daily decision we will have to make each morning when we rise. A daily portion of contentment to get through one day at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself with the what ifs and the big picture of things you have no control over. Start with today. Today I will be content with both what I have and who I am. Not settling for anything less than who He created me to be. Today I will trust in Him. I will lean into Him. I will believe Him for who He says He is. He is big enough to fill all my needs and more.
If contentment is something you struggle with, let’s walk this journey together. Staying accountable to a friend is one of the best ways to experience growth. Comment or message me and we can do this together. You don’t have to walk through this life alone! With all the love He give me . . . Jen
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RebeccaLynn says
Yikes!! I needed this. And yet … I’m not sure I was ready for the spotlight to be shined on my heart. I’m only thankful that it hurts me so deeply to know my discontented heart offends and grieves God. I’m thankful because I know it’s His Holy Spirit convicting me. Thank you for being a faithful servant to Him with your writing. Because He’s working through you. I can testify to that. Thank you for this. I’ll be posting it on my fridge to remind me that I need help in this area. Now for the tissue box ….
jen says
Rebecca you are not alone my friend. I am right there with you! Remember, this series is coming as a result of answers given to me by many women. We all share such similar struggles and yet somehow we feel so alone in them. My hope in these blogs is that we can learn to lean into each other and help each other rise above these struggles, stepping into the beauty He has for our lives. Bless you my sweet friend. You are in my prayers!
Chelsey Coffey says
Jen,
I love how you explained contentment is a DAILY decision. So true! I feel like some days I am so grateful and content but then other days I sit there and covet pretty much everything. I feel like I’m justified because I’m not wanting a BRAND NEW car, I just want one with about 100,000 less miles and about ten years newer than my 1998 Honda. 😉 But in the midst of wanting more, I forget about all that I have – and I miss out on the little things.
jen says
Chelsey I do the same thing! But about my van 🙂 I believe it is just too overwhelming to take it all on at one. Just like the Israelites, I need to get up in the morning and ask God for my portion. If He gives me more than that I often can’t handle it.
bethany says
Yes it is! Just did a little word study on Satisfaction last week on the blog. Thankful He gives us this choice and helps us along in making it!
jen says
I will have to go check that out! 🙂
Kristine says
Hi Jen! Stopped by to check out your blog today and WOW! I love the design. It’s beautiful:) I adore this post too. Such wisdom here. I pinned it so I can come back to it for future reference. Love!
jen says
Thank you so much Kristine! This site has been a labor of learning love! How has your book been doing? I am so excited to sneak some nuggets from you 🙂
Carolina Hinojosa-Cisneros says
This is such a good post and so relevant to the generation we live in. More more more and better better better. We have a dinosaur iPad and I tell my son that it’s a luxury to even own one. Machines don’t put those together, humans do. It really makes him open his eyes (and mine) to things like that. I appreciate this post as I too need to work on contentment. I wish I had so and so’s yard. I have to remember that at least I have a yard. At least I have some place around my home to call my own. That’s not a reality for many. I need to be grateful in more ways that one for one he’s done for me and my family. I’m so glad you linked this to Open Mic Monday for the soul at Cisneros Cafe. It’s always such a pleasure to read your posts. Have a beautiful week! xoxo
jen says
Thank you Carolina! It’s true we have to be so intentional with our little ones, they just don’t see how blessed they are. We talk a lot about that here with our Compassion and World Vision kids. We find it a great way to really let the kids see how others live. Hope you have a wonderful week as well!
Ruth Campos says
Great post! Thanks for sharing these thoughts with us! It is a very apropos topic for the world we live in. Well written! I’m going to print and share with a friend who has no internet.
jen says
Ruth, so glad you found it helpful and thanks for sharing! Have a great week!!